After yesterday's phone call from my daughter, I thought I could do better at listening and not commenting or saying the wrong things today so... I called my daughter and asked her how about her husband is doing after loosing his job yesterday. I listened and tried very hard not to make comments or offers and to just listen. I did.
After hearing about their situation yesterday, I had a horrible night and couldn't sleep at all from knowing their troubles. All night long I kept on thinking about solutions to suggest to them and ways to help.
I wasn't even an accomplished listener yesterday! Do you think it is difficult for a "Listener" to just listen and then put what the listener heard in the back of the listener's mind? NO! NO! NO! How can this work? The listener pays.
I wonder if I can sleep better tonight. Their situation is still the same.
This listener has already paid. Do other listeners pay? They must.
Oh yes, ma'am, they do. My mom will lose lots of sleep over all of us. I don't mean to do that to her. She knows I don't. My kids have started doing that to me, too. I know you don't believe in prayer, and you believe that prayer just makes you feel better because you feel like you did something rather than nothing, but some things are bigger than us. Some things just need to be turned over to faith and let God, or nature, or time take it's course. I believe that good thoughts, whether to God, or just sent out to the universe, help in some small way. Anytime my mom prays for us, her prayers are answered. Mine, not always, but then, I am not the wonderful person my mom is. Have faith that things will take care of themselves. Think about your own life. When you thought things couldn't get worse, when you were at the end of your rope, didn't things get better....it took time, but they did get better, as will your daughter's situation.
ReplyDeleteI worked with a man who lost his job, then lost his home, and then lost his wife....not to someone else, but to hoarding. He chose not to lose his kids to CPS and got rid of all the junk, and she left him. He was working with me at the time, and had previously worked a supervisory position at Texas Instruments. He developed programs to help us at work and our bosses wouldn't even look at them. I used them, but no one else would. He thought his life was over. But do you know what? Both sons went to college and got their bachelor degrees, he moved into a nicer apartment, and he got a job in our IT section at work....doing programming. He is happy now. It took time, but, like all problems, most of them resolved themselves and he ended up better off. Just give it time.
Hugs. Hugs. Hugs.
Thank you. You have good thoughts, just different than mine. It is nice to know how life works out in different ways. I really think it's all random. Guess I'm a fatalist.
DeleteThanks for Hugs. I feel the love..........You are a GOOD person!